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Why are Some People So Rude? I’m Tired of It.

You know what I am tired of? Rude people. I have spent an inordinate amount of time this week trying to just not absorb negative energy and hostile behavior surrounding me, but it’s out of control. There are only so many times you can be like water off a duck’s back, or Teflon, or whatever analogous thing you must be to fend of vitriolic blasts. UGH!

This is not me.

I am not going to write a blog on how to reject or recognize toxic people, since there are many of those blogs (and people)–believe me; I’ve read them.

But, I do wonder a few things. First, I wonder how people can be so blind and detached about other people’s feelings and lack diplomacy? I know, for myself, (and I’m an empath), I always think about how what I say or do will land if it’s something potentially sensitive. I spend inordinate amounts of time “feeling bad” about everything, and I can’t comprehend when people can be outright hostile unapologetically. In fact, I feel bad so often, that my family and I started a jar where we’d all put a dollar in it every time we said “I feel bad.” We figured this would be a great way to save for an opulent vacation, since we say it so many times a day. Today, I owe $2.

Maybe some others should start a jar.

Next, I wonder how we all got so angry. Granted, the pandemic is certainly horrible, and we are all cooped up and pissed off on some level about the injustice. But, really…haven’t we learned that human life is fragile, that we are better served being peaceful and taking time to be somewhat grateful? Why be so MEAN to other people and lash out? Like, what purpose does that serve?

If you have something mean to say, figure out a way to say it tactfully. In short, at its most basic translation: stop sucking. Really.

Lastly, I wonder why no one corrects these folks who feel it’s okay to walk around being so offensive. I think, sadly, some people are proud of the their “I don’t give a ****” attitude and wear it like a badge of honor. There are bumper stickers, magnets, pins, etc. that all have that as a motto, as IF it is some kind of virtue. No, in fact, being humane and caring about others is probably more meritorious and deserving of praise than being caustic with armor up all the time. Go to therapy, heal thyself.

These people obviously are hurting. We should FEEL BAD for THEM.

I just wish it didn’t first hurt me.

WHAH. That’s me crying inside right now.

See, now I feel bad. For real. For myself.

xx

11 thoughts on “Why are Some People So Rude? I’m Tired of It.”

  1. Wow! I totally FELT everything you said here, Alexandra! I’ve been right where you are and I’ve wondered the exact same things. Thank you so much for posting something that is so relatable. My heart goes out to you. Know that you have friends here in the blog world and we care. Sending you lots of love! ❤

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      1. You’re very welcome. Another thing I forgot to mention is that once I’ve had enough of these types of people, I let my mouth run wild- tell them what I think of them and some of it isn’t pretty. I believe in treating everyone how I’d like to be treated and will overlook others rudeness but only for so long. Once I’ve had enough, it’s Katie bar the door. Maybe I shouldn’t be that way, but a person can only be pushed so far. I’m sure you can relate.

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  2. I “can’t even” with thoughtless people either. The crazy thing (to me at least) is that I have to tell myself not to waste time being annoyed by them, because they obviously don’t think about anybody else, so why return the favor..

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